Sunday 30 June 2013

Fetishes: Poop and Circumstance

Before moving out East and into the Gay Village here, I was in a backwater city out West.  Knowing that I was moving, I started hitting up men in my soon-to-be-home city on the internet.  On Recon.com I met a guy that was also originally from out West.  He was gorgeous, a jock.  After a few emails, we took the next step and turned on our cams.  A poppers enthusiast like me, we had some good live chats.  He was obsessed with me showing him my ass.  You know what I mean:  He wanted me to spread those cheeks for him and show him my spot where the sun don’t shine.  Now keep in mind that I’m getting tanked on Jack Daniel’s.  Somehow, I have to position myself precariously on the chair so that the cam can get the right shot, with the lighting just right so that he can see the damn thing.  This was all quite awkward – I certainly could have fallen and chipped a tooth.  But I’m giving!  Here’s the problem:  With me facing away from the computer, showing him my ass, I see nothing.  I do hear him though, as he says sweet things like “Love your hole man.”  Well, I’m glad, but my knees are beginning to buckle.

It was after a while that he revealed to me that he didn’t just like my ass, he was interested in what was in it.  He was into scat, and the deeper I probed (pardon any pun here), I realized that this was almost his exclusive interest.

I’m not into scat, but damn, this man was fine.  So I feigned interest – for a while.  I asked him if he had many opportunities to explore this fetish.  He said he did once in a while, but didn’t really require sex too often in general.   It soon became clear to me that the bulk of our sex chat was going to be about scat and finally I couldn’t carry on.  If we chatted about other sexual things, I could sense his interest waning.  (Note to reader:  we finally met by accident at the gym once I had moved.  We had some nice chats, but ultimately I don’t think he was interested, which is probably for the best.  But he was a hot looking man).
On Manhunt.net, I connected with a cute guy who also lived in the Village, and in an email, he asked me the wonderful, standard question we’ve all been asked on hookup sites: What are you into?  Enthusiastically, I launched headlong into a laundry list of all the various fetishes I had.  I then in return asked him what he was into and he responded with a six word answer:  I want to eat your shit. Regardless of his fetish, I thought to only list one thing was a little limiting!  We didn’t continue our correspondence, but I do see him around or at the gym, where we nod hello.

Even as gay men push the envelope with regard to sexual norms and mores, I think most gay men resist the idea of scat play.  So I have to take my hat off to the men who are brave enough to share their kink, when their kink could lead them to being ostracized within their own community.  I like piss play, but I can’t quite get my head around the appeal of scat play.

Once on Gay.com (oh lord, Jason, how many sites have you been a member of?) a man from Bulgaria chatted me up.  He wanted to suck me off while I took a shit on the toilet.  Since he was on the other side of the world, I used the moment of internet anonymity to toy with the idea with him.  The trouble is, when you are discussing a fetish that is not your own, it gets, quite frankly, boring.


And so the circumstance for poop play has arisen, but I doubt I will ever go there.  My question to you is this:  Is there a fetish (of the safe, sane and consensual type only please), maybe even a relatively common one, that just doesn’t appeal to you?  What is your favorite fetish?  Is it such a favorite that sex just isn’t sex without it?

8 comments:

  1. That's a clever title. I know exactly what you mean about when sometimes you feign interest in something to get more of a very hot gentleman. Sometimes, though, I think that's how new pleasures are born. I think that's how I was drawn in to really enjoying a man who can smoke well. I try to be respectful of anyone with the courage to ask for what they want, even if I can't give it. I think I have some wild tastes myself.

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  2. So true Kev, and thanks for the comment! There was a time I thought pits were gross. I can't believe that, because now I'm almost more turned on by the sight of hairy pits than a hairy dick. Who woulda thunk it back then!

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  3. My fetish is so totally safe and sane that it's almost laughable. While piss play is a passion, and pits are a pleasure, a good pair of legs on a men is a definite fetish. I've actually shot a load just rubbing my cock along a man's calves. Since I haven't gotten off simply by running my dick through a puddle of a guy's piss, that surprising puts legs way at the top of the list.

    Piss play, though, runs a close second. Oddly enough, piss play is amusingly accepted in gay society; scat play isn't. I haven't even heard of the term "leg play!"

    And then you threw in that caveat about it "not being sex without it." It's pretty hard being here by myself enjoying an intense bate session to get off on someone else's legs except through pics, and for some reason, those folks who make videos tend to omit below-the- thigh shots for some reason. Maybe I'm the only one who really likes to see a good set of calves as they taper down to the ankles - but I doubt it. And, since rubbing my cock along my calf isn't the easiest thing to accomplish, perhaps when I do have the chance to do that with another guy, it is even more special and that particular fetish rises to the surface.

    I like what Kev said about 'feigning interest in something to get more of a very hot gentleman.' I did that last summer. There was a guy who was spending a couple of months on a farm fairly close to me, and I wanted to get to know him better than just seeing a picture. His main thing was to begin the meeting by taking a shower, soaping each other up, and then enjoying being 'squeaky clean' [those were his words] together. I acted interested just to get an invite to where this guy was 'farm sitting,' but I didn't relish the idea of getting all clean once I got there. It was like I was worried we would scrub the 'man' off of us. Luckily, he had showered before I got there, so I didn't have to do it. I was prepared to fake it, though, just to get to know the guy.

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    1. Oh dear lord, like I even have room for another fetish but what you wrote reminded me of a time I was humping a guys leg at one point during play and he sexily said "Yeah, hump my leg like a damn dog." And then as a read you, I thought of how many times my eyes are drawn to men's legs in Summer while they wear shorts, the hairier the better for me. And THEN, I thought about how I could twist myself into the pretzel required to hump my own leg during a bate! After what you wrote, I think a fetish for legs has been brought to the fore!

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  4. The thought of you twisted up like that just for a leg has me wondering just how contagious this can be, and why I'm so in. I think above all, these speak to the power of our mind. How when we engage our creativity and imagination, pleasure is all around us. We just don't always get to pick which box we open and discover, but we're always glad for the present.

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  5. I'm glad you're in, Kev! They always say the biggest and most important sex organ is the one between our ears. I'd be interested to know what presents you've received lately (grin)...Jason

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    1. Thanks Jason, that's a gift from you for sure! I agree with you about our best sex organ, and it's been very good to me. I could write a novel about all the presents I've opened and liked. Shiny lycra ones, tight rubbery ones, ones wrapped in jocks, sticky wet ones, even some hairy ones full of hot armpits! I'd love reading yours here, it's fun watching you peel back the layers.
      -Kevin

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  6. Kevin, thank you so much! I'm coveting all the presents you've "opened" since I love the exact same kind of presents! But the present you gave me now is some affirmation about this "peeling back the layers". Thank you for reading and for commenting.......Jason

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